3 Easy Steps For Accepting Compliments

My friend sent me this video yesterday.  Please watch it:

The video is a parody of how women receive compliments.  Or rather, how they don’t receive compliments… they deflect them with self deprecating rebuttals.

The problem is that the video isn’t THAT much of a parody.  It’s disturbingly realistic.  (Minus the “I just want to like, crawl up your pussy and have you give birth to me!” part, because that is too hilarious to be realistic. I think I’m going to start saying that to pregnant chicks just to see how they react).

WHY do women do this!?

(I meant that as a rhetorical question.   Addressing that can of worms is outside the scope of this quick, rant-y blog post.)

Rejecting compliments is a very bad habit. If someone gives you a compliment it’s probably because they thought something nice about you, so you should stop thinking they have ulterior motives and take it at face value.  Rejecting compliments all the time makes you seem insecure, and it makes people not want to give you compliments anymore.  And then you won’t get any more compliments!  And come on!  We all like compliments!

The other reason you shouldn’t reject compliments is because it’s SUPER ANNOYING.  My sister told me to to delete this part of the post because it’s “whiny in an unproductive way”, but I don’t care.  I have to say it.  IT’S SUPER ANNOYING.

Rejecting trivial compliments from your friends is a bad habit, but I suppose that it’s not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.  Letting this habit flow over into your work life however, IS a big deal.  At work you need to promote yourself and bring attention to the things you do well.  Dismissing praise and emphasizing your weaknesses is the exact opposite of bringing attention to the things you do well.

So here’s how to accept a compliment graciously:

  1. Smile
  2. Say thank you
  3. You are done.  Move on.

Actually, there’s a 4th step… believe the compliment.  I’d be willing to bet that you deserve it.

4 Comments on “3 Easy Steps For Accepting Compliments”

  1. Ralph says:

    My mother – your grandmother – always gave the same advice. Smile, say thank-you. She thought trying to deflect a complement just was immodest because it made the person giving it to defend the complement. Smile – and thank-you was the most modest response and hence the the one that makes a person look best in any situation.

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  3. Love it, Emily. Your three steps are right on point. Hope you’re doing well!

  4. Kellie says:

    I love this video! I shared it with my friends. In high school, I did not take compliments that well. To me, the easiest compliment to take in are from random strangers. They like your dress, cool. Why would they have to lie to impress you, another stranger?

    So I like compliments from strangers. With close friends, a compliment is an indirect question to 1) where can I get that top? 2) I need/want this as a gift soon.

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